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One of the dumbest things to get upset about is being called "ma'am" (a shortened form of "madam"). In my opinion, it's just a sign of respect and shouldn't be taken to mean that you're OLD! You wouldn't believe the amount of girls (oh, I'm sorry, women) that get their panties in a wad when someone calls them "ma'am" because: "I'm only 28, single with no kids! WTF, mate?" I guess only we can can determine how we want to react to things, but I don't think the intention is to call someone old when you call someone "ma'am". I personally will never say "miss" when addressing a female in a professional setting, regardless of age. I always say "ma'am".

All in all, these offended are only hurting themselves when they choose to get offended by any little insignificant thing. They're only inviting self-created negativity.

Date: 2017-06-01 05:44 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] spoonorita
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I actually get annoyed being called "ma'am" but it's more related to my gender dysphoria rather than "uwu i'm only 29"

Date: 2017-06-01 06:54 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] ironymaiden
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or you could stop using gendered language in a professional setting. if you think about it, the cultural baggage around this is heavy - men are never formally addressed in ways that comment on their age or marital status. Or called out as male at all, since they are "default" humans.

i understand the intention of expressing politeness as you know it, but the wording of your complaint ("girls", "panties in a wad", "choose to get offended") is...unfortunate. why does this incident stir you so?

Date: 2017-06-01 07:41 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] tjoel2
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I don't understand it either. Makes no sense to me why people are offended by that.

Date: 2017-06-02 05:00 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] sabraka
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Did you photoshop that? I like it :D

I have to admit a feeling of "oh-shit" when called "ma'am", 'cause like.. ((when did that happen? Is it my face? What I'm wearing? When did I cross over!!?)) Insecurities! "Miss" is generally how "young women" are addressed, & I guess it can be hard to ignore that fact & remain secure in a society where we put such emphasis on remaining/appearing youthful.

Date: 2017-06-03 10:04 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] beautyizdead
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I think of this when my boyfriend replies to things I ask him and says "Yes Ma'am." I know he isn't saying I am old but it's his way of being polite to me and answering properly. You never see a man get shitty when someone calls him "Sir." Women need to get over this fear of thinking they are old. We give words power could be bad or could be good. lol

Date: 2017-06-03 11:11 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] smile_n_cuddle
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I SO AGREE! I also dislike people who are all in a huff because guys open the doors for them, etc.

You can be a feminist and still be treated nicely :)


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